BEING a mother to three high-profile athletes is quite a tough act, but Mozzy Ravena makes it look easy through her love and care for her children.
“Alam mo naman ang mga mommy, iba ‘yung wiring namin eh,” said Ravena during a SPIN Sidelines episode for Mother's Day. “Siyempre, ‘yung instinct mo, number one, iba talaga ‘yung protective instinct mo. Kaya minsan sinasabi ng mga anak, OA na eh.”
A mother to basketball superstars Kiefer and Thirdy as well as Ateneo volleyball player Dani, Mozzy describes herself as a hands-on mother which he decided to become even when her children by former PBA star Bong were still kids.
“For a while, I didn’t work. Meron lang akong maliit na business to keep me busy. Pero medyo nag-fulltime mom din ako. Sabi ko, up to a certain age, dun na ako mag-wowork. Parang may game plan din.
"Nung nakikita ko na ‘yung foundation sa school and sports, medyo okay na, may mga coaches na. Sige doon na ako puwedeng mag-work,” said Ravena.
When his children grew up, Ravena remained very much a presence in her children's life even as he juggled work and domestic duties.
“Hindi pa rin puwedeng 9 to 5 because I want to go to their games tapos may mga errands sila, I try to help them out,” said Ravena.
When asked who was the most makulit when her children were kids, Ravena said: “Iba-ibang kulit. Si Kiefer, makulit na bata. Bata siyang naging matanda. Si Thirdy, makulit na bata. Free spirit kasi si Kuya siguro nga dahil middle child siya, non-conformist. Si Dani naman, makulit na nakakatawang kulit, siguro dahil only girl."
Being a part of the sports family, Ravena makes it a point to watch all of their games. Even though he was once a volleyball varsity player and husband Bong a former PBA star, Ravena made sure not to cross any boundaries with their coaches.
“Ordinary kids lang naman sila to me. Ganun lang din ako katulad ng ibang nanay. Sundo, hatid sa school, tutulong sa homework. Siguro ako lang, kahit nung bata sila, super hands-on ako. Bantay ako sa Milo (BEST Center), sa mga tournaments. I think that’s the best part. Not necessarily mag-coach kasi nakakahiya naman mag-coach ng basketball. Si Bong ‘yun.
“It’s more of hindi siya technical but I know that they will become better players.,” said Ravena.
Ravena said one of the few times that she missed the games of her children was last year when Ateneo won the championship over University of Santo Tomas, with Thirdy winning the Finals MVP in his last game as a Blue Eagle.
“Sobrang sad namin last year nung nag-champion ang Ateneo. Na-postpone ‘yung Japan trip namin ni Bong. Nung natuloy siya, nag-Game Three ‘yung Ateneo. Wala kami nung Game Three. Pinapanood namin sa live stream. ‘Yun ang one of the most na hindi ko malilimutan na na-miss ko,” said Ravena.
While there were a lot of triumphs, there were also tough times for the Ravena family. One of those was when Kiefer was banned by Fiba for 18 months for ingesting a performance-enhancing substance during a Fiba Basketball World Cup qualifier.
As a mom, Ravena said she made sure to help Kiefer keep a positive attitude even during the tough months when he was unable to play basketball, or be involved in other basketball-related activities.
“Si Kiefer nga niloloko namin, may suwerte malas ito,” said Ravena with a smile. “When you think about it lalo na sa mga storyang pinagdaanan niya, mahirap pero alam mo ‘yung batang ito, ‘yung blessings, twice over eh.
"[I told him] you just have to take it as a man. Parang sinasabi ko sa kanya, tignan mo after, blessed ka pa rin. Kaya sabi ko, at any rate, you look at the blessings rather than the challenges.”
The Ravena siblings also have their share of bashers, but Mozzy has learned to roll with the punches.
“Bakit mo sasayangin ‘yung oras mo to get angry. Naiintindihan ko pa nga sila kasi ‘yung info na nakukuha nila, hindi naman nila kilala personally. Parang useless magalit dahil nakukuha lang din nila sa ibang nagba-bash na imbento lang din.
"Hindi na siguro masyadong nakaka-affect. Mas nakaka-affect pa nga kapag kakilala mo na nagliliko-liko ng storya. Mas affected ako doon. Pero ‘yung mga bashers, I try to understand them. Hindi nila alam ang totoo,” she added.
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Mozzy feels so blessed.
“Happy ako kung anong meron kami. Sobrang blessed ako sa what I have now. Sobrang blessed,” she said.